Stop Hesitating & Make Quicker Decisions
Today’s episode is all about making fast decisions so you can keep moving! The best leaders are the quickest and most accurate decision makers. It is an intuitive process and if insecurity is slowing you down from making a choice, dig into that. Life wants to move through you and all you have to do is direct the energy. There is no wrong decision!
- “The Executive Mind is a Projective Mind. It moves actions and resources. A lot of people fail because they can’t or won’t decide things. They hesitate and lose the timing or become doubtful and lose the leadership. They will discuss things, shuffle papers, and plan. The Executive Mind decides in seconds. When you have difficult decisions, like a surgeon dealing with life and death, this mind is essential.” The Mind: It’s Projections and Multiple Facets, Yogi Bhajan, Master of Kundalini Yoga
- Gary Vaynerchuk on decision making
- McKinsey: Decision Making in The Age Of Urgency
- How Jeff Bezos Uses Faster Better Decisions
- Shakti Sita’s Instagram
- The Pallas Instagram
Making decisions is part of every single person’s life and a huge part of business. I have noticed how myself, others, businesses, all of the things really get hung up on the decision making process. Actually, McKinsey even found that 20% of respondents to their McKinsey global survey say that their organizations excel at decision making, meaning 80% of them do not. They recognize that. The majority of these companies say that the time that they devote to decision making is used ineffectively. There’s massive amounts of time being wasted on not being able to make decisions.
The thing that I learned working in television news is first wins. Just first. Just be first. You don’t have to be accurate. You don’t have to be right. It doesn’t have to be true. Just be first. What we would do is we would just hedge all the language. You’d be like, “Allegedly there’s a shooter at the this. Reportedly reports coming in out of our nation’s capitol that dah dah, dah.” As long as we were the first to air with that story, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. Maybe it is, and then not case we’re the, I don’t know, the champions, because we got to air first. That has of course come around who to bite some news organizations in the butt, because sometimes they do go to air with completely inaccurate information that then they have to walk back. That’s never fun.
The principle of this quickness and then act now, apologize later is a little bit ingrained in me. It might be why I am inherently quicker at making decisions than a lot of other people. It could also be because I’m an Aries, but we all have Aries somewhere in our astrological birth chart. That’s the pioneer energy. That’s just the quick impulsiveness. Impulsiveness, for some reason the word impulsive has like this negative sort of connotation, but I think it’s one of the best qualities anyone can have. If you’re impulsive and you just take action, at least you’re doing something. That’s how anything gets started in anything gets created. So even if you do mess up along the way, if you’re getting 95% of the shots though, who cares about the 5% you didn’t get, at least you got the 95 other percent and presented them. Whereas someone who’s just sitting around with no spark, movement or anything whatsoever has created exactly 0%.
Actually Jeff Bezos even says, he says this is a quote from him. He says, “If you’re good at course correcting being wrong, maybe less costly than you think.” There’s also an element of like, “If you know how to get back on course then does it really matter if you get a couple of decisions wrong?” No. The decision making process on a day to day can really … I mean, the speed at which things manifest is directly proportional to how fast you can make decisions. It’s absolutely correlated.
Now what I have noticed in creating the Palace is how funny it is to notice the things I can’t make decisions on. For example, one of them is the yoga mats for the studio. I have looked at every single yoga mat on the entire market. I have not found, part of the reason I haven’t been able to decide is because I haven’t seen one that completely matches my vision. It might not exist yet. The other part is is that there’s got to be some insecurity around it too. It’s just that’s the fact, that is the brutal truth of decisions is that if you can’t make a decision is because there’s some insecurity inside that says, “Oh, if I make the wrong decision here, something’s going to go wrong. I’m not going to be worthy. I’m not going to matter. Something’s going to happen. I’m going to be a bad person, blah, blah, blah, blah.” Because of those negative thoughts, they completely cloud and cripple any decision from being made, because God forbid you make the wrong decision.
The good news is I picked a mat, I think. We’ll see. If they’re purple, then by the time this airs then, then yes, I did pick the mat. If they’re not purple, then I did go back on the decision. It doesn’t matter though. This is the thing. It doesn’t matter. I can always buy new mats. It’s really, and it’s such a minute detail. It’s funny, just notice something in your life right now that you just can’t make a decision on and chew on it with me while you’re listening to me talk about this. It’s highly revealing to the internal workings of your brain and your whole body system.
The insecurity thing though is really, really fascinating. At the core of insecurity is this kind of feeling that like we don’t matter or that we’ve lost touch with who we are really. At our core who we are is part of this universe. We are the universe. We’ve just lost our contact with infinity. If you wake up, if you meditate and you do the things and you’ve gotten back up to your high level, your perch where you’ve become one with infinity again, you’re okay with whatever and you have this high level perspective, then making little decisions is like, “Whatever, no biggie.” If you crawl down into the details of the thing, you lose that perspective. It can feel like a matter of life and death. Like, “Oh my God, if I pick the wrong mat, the whole thing could crumble. Just like that. All this was for waste because I picked the wrong mat.” That’s, I mean, it’s crazy. That’s how we are now.
The thing though. So again, I worked with like a lot of clients. When I work with clients in the business capacity, I had PR clients. I was a chief communications officer for a company, a CCO, and a COO. I’ve been in inside. What I’ve seen with every single leadership board or people or whatever that I’ve worked with is that the best ones make quick decisions. They say yes. They say no. They don’t need everyone’s opinion.
The slowest decisions and the worst decisions usually correspond to one another. There’s definitely a correlation between how long a decision takes to be made and how good of a decision it was, from my opinion and my experience. I haven’t been able to find any data on that. But the more people that we talk to, the more customer data we collected, the more everything where we ignored the intuition of the executives. It was just never as good of a decision. Sometimes we would completely miss the opening, the window were you make the decision and then the massive impact happens. There’s a window there. If you miss that, then the decision is irrelevant. Some decisions do need to be made with speed. Not making a decision is also a decision. If you’re sitting around and waiting to make a decision, not making is you have committed to a certain outcome. That’s my dog coughing.
Okay, so then the one of the people that I admire so greatly on this topic is Gary Vaynerchuk. He is obsessed with just making quick decisions. He’s literally like … He’s on video making a million decisions all day long, in the middle of other meetings making decisions about other things. He’s a yes, no, yes, no, yes, no. The thing is he’s sup- … The reason he’s able to do that is because he’s super right with himself. Meaning he’s sitting in a very neutral position. He’s not scared of making the wrong decision. Part of him not being scared of making the wrong decision is partly the way that he was brought up and he talks about that all the time, is that he feels very supported by his parents in the way that he was brought up. When you have that kind of upbringing, you do have a steady foundation that you feel that the universe has your back, that you are supported in whatever decision you’re making.
If you come from a more unstable upbringing, sometimes it doesn’t feel like things are going to work out for you. That’s a much bigger hurdle. That does slow down your decisions. But if you can get to the point where you can feel that the universe is going to support whatever decision you make and that whatever decision you make is the right decision, there is no wrong decision, then you can make quick ones, accurate ones, fast ones, all of it.
Gary goes, he says, the right decision is always the fastest decision. He says ultimately what matters most is speed. Speed trumps everything. I love that. That’s such music to my ears. It feels good. Does that feel good to you guys? If we’re going to sit around and talk about things and talk about things and talk about things, it’s like you’ve lost me. I mean, I’m so bored. He says, instead of trying to make perfect decisions, because this is the problem, we try to make the perfect one where everyone’s needs will be met and everything will be satisfied and, and we’ve mitigated the risks and we’ve weighted all the things and we have the data to back it up and we have only like, “Oh my God, stop it.”
Debating is often an insecurity in disguise,” he says. It’s true. It’s like if you need other people’s opinions, like why? Maybe you don’t want the burden of being the person who made the decision like. Are you big enough to carry the outcome of the decision that you make? Because every decision has a lot of outcomes. Again, we’re going for speed, we’re going for accuracy. That means that’s a lot of outcomes that you’re going to have to deal with. 5% of which might not be the outcomes that you desired or anywhere near them. And even of the desired outcomes that might require you to step into being a different type of person or act a different way or have new, bigger, better problems. It comes with a lot of baggage.
The example that’s coming to mind right now that I didn’t think of before I hit record, I was in when I went … I went to Bucknell University. One of the main courses that everyone does is Management 101. It’s such a cool course, because we actually create a business. It’s a legitimate business. We sell a product. We make money. Then we donate all the money to a charity in. We actually like go and do good in the community with the money that we make from this business. This is all over the course of a semester.
In the beginning of the semester, we all have to pick a position within the company. I was the press secretary, media manager, of course, because that’s what I was into. We were selling these zip up sweatshirts with this little like bison on it. It was an American apparel sweatshirt. We completely sold out of them. It was amazing. We made a lot of money. We donated it all and built shelters for these dogs, this dog shelter up the street. It was really special. In the middle of it we had to pick the color of what sweatshirts we were going to sell. This is were decisions need to be made. We have 25 people in our company and every single person needs to weigh in on this. Not only that, we had to send surveys out to the whole student body, because our teachers said to.
We have all the survey data and then we also have the opinions of everyone in the room. The survey data, it’s pretty clear. If you have to make a decision and we had to do this survey data, it’s clear. Just pick the first three that came back on the surveys. Clearly that’s what people want to buy. But we had this one girl was like, “Nope, we need to get the forest green sweatshirts, because the football players were telling me that they like forest green.” Forest green was number eight on the list of the color sweatshirts that we should be printing on. I’m like, “That makes no sense. I’m sorry.” It ended up being this whole thing, because like I broke decorum because God forbid someone causes a scene through disagreement. I wouldn’t back down basically. She was like, “No, well I think blah blah blah.” I think she may have been the CEO position. She might have been, which is probably why it’s quote unquote breaking decorum for me to be like, “No, I think you’re wrong.”
Yeah, I caused the scene, because I completely disagreed with her. Other people disagreed with her, but they didn’t care. She’s the CEO, so she’s going to make the decision. I’m like, “Okay fine. Live with it. Have fun.” Then we didn’t get our investment that we needed because basically we have to present the whole plan, including what colors we’re getting and why and all this stuff to the investment board. Then they wouldn’t give us the investment because it made no sense why we would pick forest green. It’s seventh on the list of survey responses. Duh.
But anyways, so this is like a little microcosm of like, it’s just clear what the decision is, but you make the wrong one because you’re probably not right with yourself and you’re insecure and you want to appease the football players instead of get the investment money to make your company successful. Extrapolate that out, so whoever else you’re giving away your power to and ignoring the neutral or factual situation. I’ve seen a lot of people really F it big time. When you’re making decisions from a place of lack, from a place of insecurity, from all those things, then you should not be making quick decisions. You shouldn’t be making any decisions. You should go take a nap.
The only time that you should really be making the quick decisions is when you’re in your pocket of power and you’re sitting comfortably in some sort of neutral zone or access to neutral zone where you can see clearly the whole field or enough of the field where you have your intuitive hits of this way, not that way, this way, not that way. If you’re not there, then don’t make the quick decisions. Don’t pander, that’s for sure. Don’t pander to your own insecurity when making your decisions. That will hurt you.
Here’s what Yogi Bhajan says, master of Kundalini yoga. He says, “The executive mind is a projective mind. It moves actions and resources. A lot of people fail because they can’t or won’t decide things. They hesitate and lose the timing or become doubtful and lose the leadership. They will discuss things, shuffle papers and plan. The executive mind decides in seconds. When you have difficult decisions like a surgeon dealing with life and death, the mind is essential.”
Don’t sit around shuffling papers. Don’t be that guy, really. You might even be while you’re listening to this. I hope that this is inspiring you to if there is that decision that like your yoga mat, example. For me, it’s the yoga mats. For you, it’s something else. There’s something that you just can’t make the decision on for some reason. It’s much deeper. It’s not just because it’s yoga mats. It’s one click. You have the money, all the things. You have all the reasons. You have the pro/con list, but there’s the deeper reason why you’re not making the decision is where the gold is. If you can go down into that, get into a meditative space and figure out what what’s really blocking you from making the decision, then then you can proceed. Then you can make more decisions and quicker decisions and move faster and hopefully, you know, just live a happy, fun life, because then things are going to manifest quicker and things will come into reality quicker.
I had this moment that I realized that building businesses is really just making decisions. It’s literally like, here’s my list of decisions I need to make today. The quicker I can just decide on these things, the quicker the whole business comes together. If you have the money, which money is just, I mean, that’s just an energy. If you’re thinking you can’t make the decisions cause you don’t have the money, analyze that. It’s likely a feeling that the universe isn’t supporting you or a feeling of lack or something of that nature. So if you can get under that, unhooked that a little bit and that then proceed, it might help.
Yeah, I realize that it’s actually just a bunch of, comes back to computer programming. It’s just a bunch of ones and zeros. It’s yes and no. And yes and no. If you sit around and you put the blinders on and you start scrolling Instagram and you’re like, you know what, I’m not going to make this decision today or I’m not ready to make this decision?. Fine. That’s you’re entitled to take as long as you want to make the decision. But if you want to create and create profusely and intensely and you know, be like a fire hose. You’ve got to make the decisions and keep directing it where to go. The energy is moving and it’s your job to direct it. It wants to move through you. It wants to use you. You have to just keep directing it. Yes, no, yes, no, yes, no in these types of types of way, the path that it needs to go. You can’t turn it off. The second that you tried to turn the energy off that’s moving through you, you become destructive. So you know, so make decisions don’t become destructive. Just make the decision.
On that note, I love you guys. Thank you so much for listening today. Let me put it this way. You just made the best decision of your whole day by listening to this podcast. Just keep doing you. You’re doing amazing and I’m rooting for you and you got this. I support any decision you make as long as it’s a decision that you made for you.